Back in 2010, Clarisse Thorn asked the community of kink bloggers a series of questions. I came across them the other day, and figured I would answer them on my day off…
1) Do you have any frustrations about kink blogging?
Oh absolutely! I think that each of us
gets frustrates about coming up with new yopics to write about, new insights we can glean from our experiences and while hetaera is a new project, I have been writing for kink and poly blogs for about three years. After all this time, finding truly new stuff is a bit difficult.
Sometimes inspiration fails and sometimes it’s just a case of working 60 hours a week, so there is sometimes an urge to go for easy topics or write less: one of my other personal blogs has actually seen three months between posts. These are factors which can creep in far too easily.
In the same way that I see shibari as equal parts knowing how to do things and equal parts making stuff up as you go along, blogging is equal parts sharing knowledge and part having new experiences and figuring things out.
1a) Are there any topics you’re nervous about or afraid of posting about? Why?
Sure! I know that in the future I want to be posting about things I have never tried before. For example: I have never done any fisting. I have come close with Viper, but have not managed a full insertion and I have never received any. Even anal play is something which I have only tried lightly: in short, there are tons of things I am nervous about, but I know that when I do get those experiences, the resulting posts will be all the better for my having pushed my boundaries a bit more.
2) Do you think you have weaknesses as a kink blogger?
Yes: I worry that my experiences are limited by both my time and money. I try to experience as much as possible, but working as much as I do and on a very low wage… let’s just say it’s a viscious cycle.
3) Hey, what do you actually like about being a kink blogger?
Everything! Meeting new people, learning new things, experiencing stuff, there is nothing which I would say I don’t like about it.
4) Do you blog under your real name? How many people who know you in the mainstream world know about your blog?
Surprisingly, Taboo LaRasa is not my real name: I was previously writing as ‘Kinky Con’ but following a huge shift in my life, I wanted something new which reflected my mindset: Coming at life without preconceptions.
I decided on something like ‘Tabula Rasa’, which lent itself very obviously to ‘Taboo LaRasa’.
Quite a few people whom I know in the mainstream know about this part of my life, as it is something I am very open about, but that is partially because I tend to surround myself with other kinkstera, so this could well be a case of selection bias.
5) Got any questions you want to ask other kink bloggers?
Sure: what are your best and worst experiences as a kinkster?
What are your favourite blog posts & why?
Do you have specific types of music you prefer to use during scenes?
Ok, that’s all for me today: stay safe, stay kinky, lots of love,