The 14-year-old theory

“Have I told you my theory on why life is so tough?” We’re told constantly that we need to be more mature, and yet biologically, we tend to hit our peak within our teen years, just as puberty is coming to an end: no major stressors, but technically an adult… So the theory is this:…

The store is live!

https://hetaera.lemonstand.com/ It’s been a long time coming and there are still quite a few things I have to figure out, but the store is up! Plans going forward: get it working smoothly. Add new products from various retailers, maybe smaller ones Tee shirt designs and other merch. A monthly subscription service. What I need from…

Praise the sun!

Summer is upon us and with the sun comes sex- specifically outdoor sexiness. Just 6 days ago, two men and a woman were arrested for having sex on a roof. And yet… I am tempted more now than I have been at any point previously to break out the rope bag and head into the…

Joy

Apparently kink is what makes me happy, is what brings me joy.

Fight and flight.

There are many points in my life where I have felt backed into a corner over something, where that fight or flight feeling kicks in. I have always tried to take it, and just move on to the next thing, but what happens when neither are a viable option?  When your opponent is higher up…

The DSM

The new DSM specifies that in order for an atypical sexual behavior to be classified as a mental condition, a person must: 1. Feel personal distress about their interest, not merely distress resulting from society’s disapproval; or 2. have a sexual desire or behavior that involves another person’s psychological distress, injury, or death, or a…

What we know vs what we need to know

Did you know that there are seven different kinds of intelligence? Linguistic—good with words Mathematical—good at numbers Musical—good with rhythm and sound Visual-Spatial—good at thinking in three dimensions Bodily-Kinesthetic—good at physical activity Intrapersonal—good at understanding oneself Interpersonal—good at interacting with other people The problem with conventional education is that most schools only teach the first…

Standard deviation from the norm.

Within most relationships, there is an inherent ‘standard creepiness threshold’, a line below which you don’t date, lest you be seen as a creepy creep. This line is plus or minus (your age minus (half your age plus seven)), so for instance, a twenty year old should typically not date below 17 nor above 23….

Survey results!

Ok, two weeks ago, I started a campaign to ask about the proposed subscription box and the results are in! Of those who had a look, 57% are women, 42% are men and at least one of us resents facebook’s binary views. 65% are between 18 and 24 16% said they would not be interested…

Staying on task

“Have you ever been overwhelmed by a task, by which I mean you find yourself looking at the big picture of a goal you are trying to achieve and it has ground you off track? How do you solve this? Have you ever succumbed to the pressure, resulting in a ‘this is a good day…

Headwinds and Tailwinds.

We all have days where we believe that the deck is stacked against us. This is why rich people will tell you ‘money doesn’t bring happiness’