“There are two types of people on planet Earth, Batman and Iron Man. Batman has a secret identity, right? So Bruce Wayne has to walk around every second of every day knowing that if somebody finds out his secret, his family is dead, his friends are dead, everyone he loves gets tortured to death by…
Shibari
Shibari, commonly referred to as Kinbaku (though there are some differences between the two disciplines), is an ancient Japanese artistic form of rope bondage that has many styles and uses. In Shibari (the action of tying someone up) the rigger, (or as I will be referring to them: rope spider) creates almost geometric patterns and…
Differences Between Kinks and Fetishes.
I talk a lot about fetishes and kinks on Hetaera. A lot of people have approached me over the years questioning if their particular fantasies are “normal” especially when they are typically seen as being “weird”. But what is normal? Let’s start by defining fetishism and kink: — The World Health Organisation defines “fetishism” as:…
Episode 5: Poly Media
https://www.podbean.com/media/player/u3j4h-64817b?from=yiiadmin&skin=9&download=0&share=1&fonts=Helvetica&auto=0 Episode 5 of the podcast is up: Poly & media, from Polyday 2016.
PSA: Octomas
Happy 1st of Octomas! The new 5 day holiday from 20th-24th October (which just so happens to cover the week of my birthday.) For all twue believers from the Church of Unified Light Transition, you will be familiar with the concept, but for all those I have yet to incorporate into the totally real system…
Dissecting relationships
-Re-examining an old blog post, May 5, 2013 So back in 2013, a partner of mine asked me the rhetorical question ‘where is the boundary that differentiates relationships from friendships?’ Three and a half years later, I am sat using a fantastic polyamory specific visual representation of relationships, and once again, I am wondering where the…
Anxiety: death by a thousand paper cuts.
Anxiety sucks: It’s like the feeling of every mistake you’ve ever made having turned into a scarab beetle which is now crawling around under your skin, eating away at your insides, while depression is the feeling of having already been eaten. There is a massive overlap (“Nearly one-half of those diagnosed with depression are also…
Condoms: Reinventing the wheel.
You all know that I’m a slut by now; I have a draw filled with condoms; standard, flavoured, textured, female condoms and dental dams, Well recently, Lelo released a new product; a condom called the Lelo hex. Inspired by nature (graphene and bee hives), it uses hexagonal supports on the inside of the condom to provide…
Sexy timings
Let’s talk libido. How often you want to have sex different person to person, and day to day, depending on your hormone levels, natural brain chemistry, etc. What is often missed out though is that it often dictates the duration of sexual encounters; sometimes fucking for hours in every position you can think of is…
5 Signs you may be polyamorous
5 signs you may be polyamorous Nita, the head organiser of Polyday suggested during our recording of the last podcast episode that I write a piece called ‘ten signs that you may be polyamorous.’ Well I don’t necessarily have ten points which I can put here, but I do have five common traits which I…
E4.5 Polyday Competition
https://www.podbean.com/media/player/26n5e-625a03?from=yiiadmin&skin=9&download=0&share=1&fonts=Helvetica&auto=0 Ok. So through Patreon Support, we have enough money set aside to give away three tickets for Polyday. To enter, we am looking for people to send a voice recording of their favourite poly story. It can be happy, it can be sad, it can be dramatic, it can be a teachable moment, it…
Podcast E4: Polyamory Questions, Polyday and Fetlife
https://www.podbean.com/media/player/qf5ky-6232b9?skin=11 This episode: The 10 most commonly asked questions regarding Polyamory, an interview with the two main names behind polyday (polyday.org.uk) about this year’s event a report on the recent changes to Fetlife’s sign-up policy. Polyday tickets can be purchased at https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/polyday-2016-london-tickets-24365709493 Sorry for the radio silence for the past month, and a huge thank you to everyone…
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