Standard deviation from the norm.

Within most relationships, there is an inherent ‘standard creepiness threshold’, a line below which you don’t date, lest you be seen as a creepy creep. This line is plus or minus (your age minus (half your age plus seven)), so for instance, a twenty year old should typically not date below 17 nor above 23….

Survey results!

Ok, two weeks ago, I started a campaign to ask about the proposed subscription box and the results are in! Of those who had a look, 57% are women, 42% are men and at least one of us resents facebook’s binary views. 65% are between 18 and 24 16% said they would not be interested…

Staying on task

“Have you ever been overwhelmed by a task, by which I mean you find yourself looking at the big picture of a goal you are trying to achieve and it has ground you off track? How do you solve this? Have you ever succumbed to the pressure, resulting in a ‘this is a good day…

LDRs part 2

So, continuing on from where we left off in part 1; having frequent visits can be refreshing and can strengthen the bonds between you. More important than the quantity of visits are the traits of regularity and quality. Knowing that you’re going to see each other once a month can make it a lot easier…

Going the distance with LDRs – Part 1

So the poly community has a large number of long distance relationships. It’s hardly surprising when you take into account that our dating pool is a specific subset of the norm and that we are open to more long distance relationships when we know that we and our loves are free to see other people….

It has been a while

So, I’ve been working hard with the day job and on a few other projects related to Polyamory Activism. It’s been taking it’s toll. Not just on me but on my ability to keep up with generating new content for Hetaera. As a result I am making a concerted effort to double down and really…

Holiday round up.

So the holidays are over… And as with every year, the non-traditional have felt the struggle of doing traditional family celebration things. From those of you who came out to family to those of you who were alone because people had all primaried up, here are a few resources that can help you come to…

PSA: Octomas

Happy 1st of Octomas! The new 5 day holiday from 20th-24th October (which just so happens to cover the week of my birthday.) For all twue believers from the Church of Unified Light Transition, you will be familiar with the concept, but for all those I have yet to incorporate into the totally real system…

What Pokemon GO can teach us about relationships (and life?)

Aside from the obvious STD joke (Gotta catch ’em all?), I like to think that there is a fundamentally sound underlying message which we can learn from the game.For those of you who live under a rock, in a cave, on Mars and have done for the past two decades; Pokemon GO is an augmented…

February Roundup

Hey everyone!
This is the end of Feb update. Sorry I’m a little late, but I have been down with a severe lung infection.
Well, let’s have a roundup of the last month: