What famous historical figures can teach us about relationships…

Albert Einstein.

This is what inspired this series, fyi

Born 14 March 1879, he was (as you likely know already) a theoretical physicist most famous for the theory of relativity (E = mc^2) and for quotes about bees (though that is in question).

In 1921 he was awarded the Nobel Prize for Physics for his work on the photoelectric effect and over the course of his career, he published more than 300 scientific papers and 150 non-scientific ones. All in all, 30,000 unique documents bore his fingerprint, which is amazing and has probably been a big part in making him a household name.

What you may not think about when talking about Einstein is BDSM, though I am sure there is a particular Fetish for that out there.

Good news though; Einstein actually shared some of the same thought processes as many of the masters, mistresses, doms etc which we see on the screen, in books and all around us in real life.

Ok, so that sounds a little sensationalistic and that’s because it totally is, but Einstein did have one thing which is pretty rooted in the lives of power players: A relationship contract.

Sadly, his had nothing about leather, collars and flogging in it, but his contract with his first wife (Mileva Mavic, also a physicist), written as their relationship began to deteriorate, bound her to some rules of conduct.

Under it’s stipulations, she would have to clean him, feed him and (very important this last one…) stop talking to him.

And they say romance is dead.



A. You will make sure:

1. that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order;
2. that I will receive my three meals regularly in my room;
3. that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only.

B. You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons. Specifically, You will forego:

1. my sitting at home with you;
2. my going out or travelling with you.

C. You will obey the following points in your relations with me:

1. you will not expect any intimacy from me, nor will you reproach me in any way;
2. you will stop talking to me if I request it;
3. you will leave my bedroom or study immediately without protest if I request it.

D. You will undertake not to belittle me in front of our children, either through words or behavior.


This was in an attempt to allow their children to have a semi-functional family unit at the time. He didn’t want to lose them and didn’t want them to lose him.

Amazingly, Mileva agreed, but despite the efforts to keep things civil, it was only three months later that Mileva left her husband and took their two sons with her to Zurich.

Eventually Einstein fell in love with and married his cousin Elsa, divorcing Mavic in 1919, but that marriage was troubled as well, until Elsa died in 1936 just after the couple had moved to America.

What I find most amazing about this story is how it humanises Einstein: he is held aloft as a critical thinker and rightly so, but this glimpse into how much he and his wife cared for their sons enough to try to work through a loveless marriage, a look at the strength of character his wife had and a glimpse of how even Einstein had a relationship contract.

Ok guys and gals, that’s all from me in this post: be foolish, happy, wild, sexy & naughty together.

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